There is a price to pay in every relationship… the hard fact that many people find it hard to accept.
Being in one relationship is like being a social club member. There is a membership fee that we have to pay, this doesn’t only apply to a Lovers club, but also to a Friendship club, a Classroom club, an Office Club, or even a Family club… father, mother, siblings – all have to pay….
In all these kinds of social club, we are not paying the membership fee in a monetary form…for example, when we get angry – biting our lips – we suppress it, bury it… we pay the membership fee by suppressing our feelings, emotions, and our needs we desire from the relationship. This is so as that the other member or the other party can feel at ease, such that the relationship can go on.
… The other party also have to pay… it’s another fact.
However, we, as human-beings, are social creatures, we crave to belong to a social club. Many people keep paying a very high price of membership fee, so much that they cannot afford it anymore. The fee really gets too expensive to pay… some people therefore stop paying.
… but, there are many people who are still willing to pay despite their tears and pains.
Some put themselves together and arrive at a realistically logical point where they can “cut loss”. Yet, there are those who struggle and still pay extra… sharing that “it’s easier said than done – it’s like I cannot control myself” …

To gain more control over ones’ own lives:
Counseling and psychotherapy at PSI can help by providing an emotionally safe space for clients to recognize their feelings, explore both old and new approaches to handling negative emotional experiences, then facilitate them to make a compassionate evaluation and therefore constructive decision in each interpersonal relationship.

Saovanee (Bigg) Noppaprach, PhD C.P., Counseling Psychologist